Lots of chemistry doesn’t always make for a long-term thing.Neither one of us left with any hard feelings, but I feel a lot more confident to continue dating now.In order to have a truly fulfilling relationship (or even start a healthy relationship) with a great guy, you need to come from a place of strength, confidence, and fulfillment.Whenever a relationship goes sour (or fails to launch), it’s almost always caused by some tiny fear, doubt, worry or insecurity that grows and festers until you feel overwhelmed by the whole ordeal. Your fears and worries compel you to confirm whether they’re real or imaginary.I’ve had some of my female readers complain that the term neediness makes it sound like I’m framing women as weak, fragile, insecure creatures that just cling to men (and stress them out). I think women bring a tremendous strength and power to the table in relationships…when they have access to it and are free of their own fears. Those fears are greater now more than ever really since there’s an entire industry devoted to making sure men and women are wrought with insecurities so they buy products (sowing in and agitating tiny insecurities is the bread and butter of the marketing world).I also wanted to weed out the men who wouldn’t be cool with those things, and I wanted to demonstrate that I have a sense of humor.
I was dying to see who was using it in the small southern town I live in now. But then I got some messages from guys I would actually consider dating.
I half expected him to get out of the car and make a run for it right there. I have to tell you, I didn’t see my experience going this well.
I dated a lot before I had my daughter, and this was one of the most uncomplicated relationships I’d ever had. We ended up going out a few more times before things fizzled out.
You stop enjoying the relationship for what it is and start craving validation and confirmation that it’s “the real deal.” And there’s only one thing that manifests from that place… QUIZ: Are You Accidentally Destroying Your Love Life?
These days, people are quick to throw the concept of neediness around without actually looking at what it is.
He wasn’t my usual “type” at all, which tends to be more artsy and progressive, but he made me laugh so much.