He was a bartender at a restaurant I used to frequent and after several flirty exchanges, he finally asked for my number.
On the night of our first date, I had to delay our meeting time by a few hours because I forgot I was supposed to be having dinner with some friends.
When you are overly accommodating to him then he doesn’t feel a real push or motivation to step up and invest in you. You know you can get to it at any time so you don’t really feel an urgency.So yes you want men to pursue you, and if you are confident this will naturally happen, but you don’t want to intentionally get him to chase you because this is just neediness all dressed up.When you are truly confident and independent, he won’t take you for granted, he won’t vanish for days at a time, he won’t tell you he “doesn’t want a relationship” and continue treating you as girlfriend anyway – instead, he will lock it down because he’ll be too scared someone else will snatch you up if he doesn’t!When a guy has you and gets to keep you without really putting in much effort, your stock inevitably goes down in his mind.At this point, you may notice that he starts pulling away until he eventually pulls a swift Houdini on you, vanishing into the abyss without even uttering “abracadabra” to give you some warning!While guys enjoy the pursuit, they hate it when you act in a way that is deliberately trying to get them to chase you. And to be clear, that is not what I’m talking about here.