“I’m on an antibiotic” or “I have to get up early for work”), but lies won’t eliminate the possibility of future dates at tempting bars and restaurants.
It is imperative to approach this topic honestly, like you would (hopefully) approach the rest of the relationship.
In addition, there is an increased risk of relapse with breakups. Could you both indulge a case of the “screw-its” together?
If your partner is in recovery too, it is important to assess their stability as well as yours. Structure and routine are crucial to the recovery process.
Give them time to learn and understand what your program consists of.
However, it is important to consider that 12 step purports waiting one full year before starting a new relationship.
A fall out will make a place that was once comfortable and conducive to sobriety uncomfortable.
It may result in you going less frequently, if not at all.
Your sobriety is a part of your life and there is no need to be ashamed of the amazing work you have done to get to this point.
Being upfront, if not preemptive, will help you to reduce the chance of a slip up, avoid risky surroundings for dates and weed out the people who may be uncomfortable with dating someone in recovery.
You may also expose yourself to more social situations where alcohol is available.