It’s amazing how a lack of self-love and authentic confidence can be revealed in between the written lines.
Mindful relationships are created out of two whole people.
This past week alone I’ve gotten enough poorly executed messages to make me want to curl up in a ball of being-alone-forever.
You are excited about the profiles that seem to fit what you are looking for. There are still single people out there who seem pretty “normal,” and are interested in the same things as me! This is the part that your friends and family, who all urged you to try online dating, didn’t tell you about—what to do when no one responds to your messages.
So you’ve taken the plunge—the online dating plunge. You’ve discussed the activities and interests that are meaningful to you and that you hope to find in potential mates. I know, I cringe just thinking of saying it because it doesn’t feel good to hear at a time like this. Finding love in the midst of desperation, self-doubt and urgency will not serve your quest for love.
You’ve selected your best looking photos—a couple of yourself, some of you engaged in your favorite interests and maybe even a couple of your adorable pet or niece/nephew just for good measure. Take some long, deep breaths and practice patience—with yourself and with others.
It feels hurt, rejected and hopeless about ever finding love.
Yes, you’ve told the universe that you are open for love.
Here’s the deal with the messaging thing, a lot of people have their own theories on how it works, what works best, etc. Others try pick-up-artist “negging.” Some send ridiculously long messages about their background and their overall philosophy and what they’re currently doing with their lives.