The adult companion has to understand that the single parent is married to a previous and ongoing commitment to children that will not be forsaken for dating interest or romantic attachment.
To find the middle way, the single parent must honor relational needs with children and with significant other by dividing availability out.
The resolution of the single parent (acting single vs.
acting parent) conflict is compromising how attention is given to separate attachments, and maintaining the distinction between partner love and parental love.
3) Unless I tell you otherwise, this dating is casual only, for the sake of social companionship and enjoyment and there is no need for you to meet the person, unless you want to.Showing one party less attention on a particular occasion than the other more does not signify less love for one and more for the other.As mentioned above, compromising how attention is given is the best a single parent can do. Inequality of attention does not signify inequality of love. Neither one need be or should be at the expense of the other.4) Should the relationship become more serious, I will tell you and give you the chance to get to know the person.5) Should a serious relationship move toward a desire for marriage, before that happens we will have time for discussing how this family change is going to work.Resolution of this conflict by siding totally with one extreme or the other can be costly.