But in online dating, men my age are not looking at women my age. The men I do hear from are older than me by 10-15 years and are looking for a far more mellow lifestyle (or trying too hard to be youthful — if it is genuine, great, if not, it’s annoying).
There are 40-year olds who are way more mature than 60-year olds.
I think it’s what makes gay men so beautiful but also troubling.
I guess if we were completely self-assured, we would just be straight men who had sex with men.
I never would have gotten to follow Laura Dern around a garden tour of Los Angeles's Venice neighborhood if I hadn’t dated older men. I didn’t say “hi” to her, but now I think I would have. When I finally saw his house and his life, I could understand how getting caught sucking dick at a party with mostly Tecate being served would be appealing, or at least a change of pace. His ceilings must have been 30 feet high, and his parties had bartenders.
I was 21 and vaguely dating a 50-year-old guy I had met through friends. When he invited me over the day of the garden tour, I think I not so subtly asked him what his parents did, because I couldn’t believe someone could have this home without family money.
An older man can dream of his fantasy arm-candy, his midlife crisis temporary cure, his ego boosting babe.